God is Not Mad at You (And He's Not Schizoid)

In the wake of the recent Supreme Court decision allowing same-sex marriage, a number of Christian leaders launched wave after wave of hateful comments at US gays, along with dire warnings of “Judgment Coming to America”. God would not stand for this, we were told. America has now became a land of abomination. The nation would surely be destroyed.

To all this I say “bunk”. The New Testament is full of references calling us ALL sinners, like Romans 3:10; “There is none righteous, no not one,” and Romans 3:23; “All have sinned and come short of the Glory of God.” So how do self-righteous Christians justify elevating gay marriage to the level of “Supersin” – seemingly worse than all others, above even child abuse, murder, or naked greed (just to pick three from among hundreds).

And if God was really going to judge America, honestly, don’t you think He’s a little late? Did “the One who Knows All” miss the slave trade or the systematic subjugation and in some cases slaughter of native people, the greed and depravity of the 20’s which led to massive suffering in the Great Depression of the 30s, the liberalization of sexual morals and hedonism that began in the 60s and has continued unabated ever since, or the mass murder of school children, moviegoers or all other innocents cut down by insane people with assault rifles?

The people promoting this whole judgment scenario paint God as some kind of Mighty Avenger in the sky, ready to hurl lightning bolts or send earthquakes, tornadoes, hurricanes or economic ruin to America because of one group of sinners (among ALL of us, according to His book) want to be able to go before a judge or willing minister to pledge their love and lives to each other to receive a piece of paper declaring they’re married?

They rail about how the Biblical standard of marriage – one man and one woman for life - now lies in tatters. But is that really the standard? They love to quote weighty passages from the Old Testament, but some scriptures from that same part of the Bible don’t seem quite so definitive about what kind of marriage is “acceptable” to God. 

David, a major Old Testament hero, was married to many women, and as recorded in the second book of Samuel, in one case seduced another man’s wife, made her pregnant and sent her husband off to die in battle. Yet Acts 13:22 says, “God testified concerning him: 'I have found David son of Jesse, a man after my own heart; he will do everything I want him to do.' 

Also Exodus 21:10 says ‘If (a man) marries another woman, he must not deprive the first one of her food, clothing and marital rights.’ David’s son King Solomon (the son of his marriage with “the other man’s wife”) had 700 wives and 300 concubines – women who were literally stolen from their homes.

Where’s the “one man, one woman” standard in all of that?

But the message of the New Testament, which is supposed to apply to us today, does not present God like this – a God of judgment and law, yet whose laws seem at times subject to misinterpretation. The New Testament God is the Father of grace.

Jesus said, “If you have seen me, you have seen the Father.” (John 14:9)  And regarding judgment, He put it this way -- “For if anyone hears my words and does not keep them, I do not condemn him, because I did not come to condemn the world but to save it.” (John 12:47) He told us we will be judged based on whether we accept or reject Him. And I think it’s only rigidly religious people who would define that as saying a certain prayer or testifying publicly about their new birth.

The book of James says – “Every good thing given and every perfect gift is from above, coming down from the Father of lights, with whom there is no variation or shifting shadow” (James 1:17) And Hebrews tells us –“He that comes to God must believe that He is, and that He is a rewarder of them that diligently seek Him” (Heb. 11:6)

God doesn’t punish, He rewards.  He doesn’t hate, He loves. He is a giver, not a taker. 

And He’s not one thing one day and something else the next. I don’t believe He only heals or blesses people if it’s “His will”, or if He just happens to feel like it, or only if you have performed just the right number of good deeds that week. He is on our side.

Addressing the many confusing beliefs about God, Jesus said – "There isn't a person among you who would give his son a stone if he asked for bread, is there? Or if he asks for a fish, he wouldn’t give him a snake, would he? So if you who are evil know how to give good gifts to your children, how much more will your Father in heaven give good things to those who keep on asking him! (Matt. 7: 9-11, International Standard Version)

God wants to give us good things. He is always good.

He’s not religious, keeping a list and checking it twice like Santa Claus. He wants to have relationships with us and guide us on the inside, at the heart level.

God and Jesus want their followers above all to reflect divine love to everyone, no matter what situation they’re in and certainly whether they may be gay or straight, and then let Him do the rest. This is the essence of what the apostle Paul called the “gospel of grace”, and he said any other gospel was cursed.

In Jeremiah 30, verse 31 and 32, the prophet foresaw the new covenant and quoted God saying this:

 "I will put my law in their minds and write it on their hearts. I will be their God, and they will be my people. No longer will they teach their neighbor, or say to one another, 'Know the LORD,' because they will all know me, from the least of them to the greatest," declares the LORD. "For I will forgive their wickedness and will remember their sins no more."

Does that really sound like a God who can’t wait to zap us if we don’t toe the line? Let’s make sure we really understand who He is before we go around condemning people and damning them to hell.